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draconis · 10-11-2007, 07:34 PM

New Relationship Thesis

When you are looking for a relationship you should really look at your partner eg, your date. You need to be realistic to what you what and what they will offer. You have to ask yourself if they are like this forever is that okay.

Beliefs about relationships ~ How do they feel about cheating? Have they ever done this? Have you? What do you consider cheating, porn, phone sex, flirting, hugging, kissing just intercourse, cyber sex, erotica, talking with a single person of the opposite sex outside of work? What do they consider cheating?

What is the most important priority in your relationship? Communication, trust, faithfulness, religion, compatibility, maturity, financial stability, have fun together are all things to consider. What are their priorities and how evenly do they match up?

Sexual Compatibility ~ How important is sex really to you? Are you comfortable with 3-4 times a week do they want it much more or much less then you. Sex can bring intimacy to a relationship be sex in itself is not love. How do they view sex? How do you? Are they more sexually outgoing then you or less? Is it a big gap?

What Do you need out of a relationship? Can the person you are dating provide that to you? Do you need stability in your life? Do you need to be attracted to your partner? Do you want someone that can challenge you on an intellectual level? DO you need someone you can lean on or are you very independent? Do you want someone generous (spirit or gifts)? Can you live a life of poverty but filled with love and be happy?

Team work! All relationships are indeed a partnership. What are you willing to put into it and what do you expect them too. Personally I have always been the domestic type (strange to hear a guy does 95% of the cooking, cleaning etc and 75% of taking care of the kids) but the wife is a hard working women. I let her know when I need help and she is always willing to do that extra bit. We discuss everything and decide together what is best for us. Can you do that with you partner.

Look at your house. Are you a neat freak? Are they a slob? Are you willing to be their maid forever?

How much empathy do they give you? How well do they react to others? If you are at a restaurant how do they treat the staff?

So many questions to ask when you are getting in a relationship. With me either my relationships were really long or really short because I knew what I wanted and expected. The few times I thought I could settle I realized I was only hurting myself.

draconis

10-11-2007, 07:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
draconis Forum Supporter Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North East Posts: 2,903	New Relationship Thesis New Relationship Thesis When you are looking for a relationship you should really look at your partner eg, your date. You need to be realistic to what you what and what they will offer. You have to ask yourself if they are like this forever is that okay. Beliefs about relationships ~ How do they feel about cheating? Have they ever done this? Have you? What do you consider cheating, porn, phone sex, flirting, hugging, kissing just intercourse, cyber sex, erotica, talking with a single person of the opposite sex outside of work? What do they consider cheating? What is the most important priority in your relationship? Communication, trust, faithfulness, religion, compatibility, maturity, financial stability, have fun together are all things to consider. What are their priorities and how evenly do they match up? Sexual Compatibility ~ How important is sex really to you? Are you comfortable with 3-4 times a week do they want it much more or much less then you. Sex can bring intimacy to a relationship be sex in itself is not love. How do they view sex? How do you? Are they more sexually outgoing then you or less? Is it a big gap? What Do you need out of a relationship? Can the person you are dating provide that to you? Do you need stability in your life? Do you need to be attracted to your partner? Do you want someone that can challenge you on an intellectual level? DO you need someone you can lean on or are you very independent? Do you want someone generous (spirit or gifts)? Can you live a life of poverty but filled with love and be happy? Team work! All relationships are indeed a partnership. What are you willing to put into it and what do you expect them too. Personally I have always been the domestic type (strange to hear a guy does 95% of the cooking, cleaning etc and 75% of taking care of the kids) but the wife is a hard working women. I let her know when I need help and she is always willing to do that extra bit. We discuss everything and decide together what is best for us. Can you do that with you partner. Look at your house. Are you a neat freak? Are they a slob? Are you willing to be their maid forever? How much empathy do they give you? How well do they react to others? If you are at a restaurant how do they treat the staff? So many questions to ask when you are getting in a relationship. With me either my relationships were really long or really short because I knew what I wanted and expected. The few times I thought I could settle I realized I was only hurting myself. draconis