freddie_fender

Hi,
I have a good friend who I met through my office. She is female and married as well like myself.

We get along great and have gone out at times to different events, drinks, lunches on our own. All four of us once went out as well.

My wife and I don't have much in common with my friends husband, and we're not big socializers, so we haven't gone out with the two of them since.

However, I still like to get together with my friend. My wife finds it very strange that just her and I would get together, and not as couples. I have told my wife that my friend isn't the happiest in her marriage (but I know she would never leave it as she has children), and that unfortunately has led my wife to not trust my friend with me.

My wife says she fully trusts me, it seems to be my friend she doesn't fully trust. I have very little for friends left in my area as they have all moved away. My friendship with my "female friend" means the world to me. It means nothing to me that she is female, and nothing would ever happen...period.

However, I realize it causes my wife severe problems and she doesn't want me to spend anytime with my friend unless it is as couples.

Is it uncommon to spend time with opposite sex married friends? Am I out of line for pushing this (which I am planning to)? Is my wife out of line? Any comments would mean more than you could ever imagine to me. I am really lost on this topic and am quite sad about the whole thing. But maybe I am the one who is wrong. Thank you so much for your time!!!
Cheers,
FF