canders

Well, an update-

Things are slightly better- she still says she is done with the marriage, but follows it with a "for now" or "at this point"

I did not move out of the bedroom, and she has not either- I do not push her anymore, and have begun to go out with my friends, not because I want to, but to give her space.

I told her in a mailed letter that we needed to change the pattern, that the way it was was not working, and she had to make the choice, I had made mine, I was committed to the marraige- her choices were-

A- Move out now, she has 3 weeks to get a place and get financing for her car in her name
B- Agree to go to couples counselling once a week, to work through the issues so we could be at least freinds,and maybe more- said that if she gets her feelings sorted out and finds she does want to stay, I would not burn the bridge, as long as she stays in counselling

She agreed to go to counselling, and since saying so has been much nicer to me, and seems actually relieved a bit. Still very stand offish, but more relaxed.

She told her mother- who called me right away, as she is rooting for us- that part of her wants to work it out, but she is still done.

Guess we will see....

Chris