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Hopeful&Doubtful · 03-22-2010, 04:08 PM

Simba, I know what you are going throught and my heart goes out to you. I was in your shoes...My H (then boyfriend) cheated on me and had a son. I was devasted but, I insisted that he have a relationship with him and I initiated the relationship figuring that we all would be better off if I controlled everything as far as communication with the son's mother. We sort of shared joint custody we kept the son half the year, however my H still had to pay child support even though he stayed with us. This sort of work out for about 13 years before it all fell apart. One day something told me to check my H phone and come to find out they were texting each other behind my back and i feel like the whole thing started all over again and I feel so hurt and betrayed. And now I don't know if I can continue in the marriage but its hard to walk away after 20 some years.

I say all that to say, protect yourself first, I know the child has nothing to do with it but you can end up being the one hurt.

03-22-2010, 04:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
Hopeful&Doubtful Registered User Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 18	Re: Husband cheated and has a baby.... Simba, I know what you are going throught and my heart goes out to you. I was in your shoes...My H (then boyfriend) cheated on me and had a son. I was devasted but, I insisted that he have a relationship with him and I initiated the relationship figuring that we all would be better off if I controlled everything as far as communication with the son's mother. We sort of shared joint custody we kept the son half the year, however my H still had to pay child support even though he stayed with us. This sort of work out for about 13 years before it all fell apart. One day something told me to check my H phone and come to find out they were texting each other behind my back and i feel like the whole thing started all over again and I feel so hurt and betrayed. And now I don't know if I can continue in the marriage but its hard to walk away after 20 some years. I say all that to say, protect yourself first, I know the child has nothing to do with it but you can end up being the one hurt.