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gfc777 · 03-25-2010, 01:16 PM

Thanks Deejo - been waiting to hear from you.

I understand the need to set the boundaries around this and I think I've made myself clear. However, I'm a bit confused by the "should not pursue but cant take myself out of the picture" thing.

You said:

"At this point, you are all but enabling it by taking yourself out of the picture."

And then later:

"Odds are, the less it becomes apparent that you pursue, need, or want her ... the more likely she is to find you attractive again."

I struggle soooooooo much with this one. How do you suggest I keep myself in the picture but at the same time - not pursue? This is what I am desperately trying to understand - She's on the way out, already talked about buying a car and getting a place of her own. I've told her I want to work on us and bring us to the next level. My life's in shambles anyways - may as well throw my fists at this guys face and see how that works out...

03-25-2010, 01:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
gfc777 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 20	Re: High School Sweatharts - done after 13 years??? Thanks Deejo - been waiting to hear from you. I understand the need to set the boundaries around this and I think I've made myself clear. However, I'm a bit confused by the "should not pursue but cant take myself out of the picture" thing. You said: "At this point, you are all but enabling it by taking yourself out of the picture." And then later: "Odds are, the less it becomes apparent that you pursue, need, or want her ... the more likely she is to find you attractive again." I struggle soooooooo much with this one. How do you suggest I keep myself in the picture but at the same time - not pursue? This is what I am desperately trying to understand - She's on the way out, already talked about buying a car and getting a place of her own. I've told her I want to work on us and bring us to the next level. My life's in shambles anyways - may as well throw my fists at this guys face and see how that works out...