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gfc777 · 03-25-2010, 05:07 PM

Turnera - thanks for the post. I understand what you're saying but she has NO interest in working on us right now. She's made that clear. As for her dreams, she doesn't even know - she wants to find that out, says there so much she doesn't know about herself. I can try to date her but she isn't willing.

I've been thinking, I've only had 3 solid relationships in my life (including this one) so maybe it's time for ME to do something for myself. I read through my journal today (all 30 pages of it) and I've been selflessly accommodating her requests and telling her over and over how much I love her. I've had NO BALLS throughout this whole situation. I've been trying to find out whats wrong with US - I'm a slave to this marriage and the "perfect" life we had planned! On her side, she's worried about leaving me... Piss off! I've opened my heart to this women and told her everything. All she can say after 13 years is that she's confused and doesn't want to hurt me.

I'm still suspicious of this other guy and want to go shove my fist down his throat. However, I also realize that I don’t have a relationship with him, I do with my wife. She has to take responsibility for allowing this to materialize. My line is drawn, if she moves on in life, so will I. Can she go off on her own and 6 months later come back to me - sure, if I'm willing to accept her back.

I mentioned in my original post that I put my heart out on the line last week. I just found out (from a reliable source) that this has caused her to really consider what she's doing. Good, I've established a boundary - If she chooses to move into her own place and start her independent life, I will be doing the same. Not a reaction, but a consequence based on her choice! (Thanks Deejo)

Ahhhh, that feels better.

03-25-2010, 05:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
gfc777 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 20	Re: High School Sweatharts - done after 13 years??? Turnera - thanks for the post. I understand what you're saying but she has NO interest in working on us right now. She's made that clear. As for her dreams, she doesn't even know - she wants to find that out, says there so much she doesn't know about herself. I can try to date her but she isn't willing. I've been thinking, I've only had 3 solid relationships in my life (including this one) so maybe it's time for ME to do something for myself. I read through my journal today (all 30 pages of it) and I've been selflessly accommodating her requests and telling her over and over how much I love her. I've had NO BALLS throughout this whole situation. I've been trying to find out whats wrong with US - I'm a slave to this marriage and the "perfect" life we had planned! On her side, she's worried about leaving me... Piss off! I've opened my heart to this women and told her everything. All she can say after 13 years is that she's confused and doesn't want to hurt me. I'm still suspicious of this other guy and want to go shove my fist down his throat. However, I also realize that I don’t have a relationship with him, I do with my wife. She has to take responsibility for allowing this to materialize. My line is drawn, if she moves on in life, so will I. Can she go off on her own and 6 months later come back to me - sure, if I'm willing to accept her back. I mentioned in my original post that I put my heart out on the line last week. I just found out (from a reliable source) that this has caused her to really consider what she's doing. Good, I've established a boundary - If she chooses to move into her own place and start her independent life, I will be doing the same. Not a reaction, but a consequence based on her choice! (Thanks Deejo) Ahhhh, that feels better.