| | Re: married and still virgins :(
When I took my soon-to-be-x's virginity it was difficult because it does hurt a little and you don't want to be hurting yoru partner so it may require a little bit of work and concentration that an "ow!" can break for the guy
You are both virgins and on the older side (but it's not unheard of - my friend just took a 28 year old's virginity a few months ago). . .and you may not realize this being virgins but sex is not like the movies (porn or otherwise).
There is normally a lot of fumbling and awkwardness. Sometimes it doesn't work. Don't get uptight about it becuase it only makes matters worse.
Lubricant is a general remedy for most situations, whether natural (vaginal or a tongue) or from a bottle.
Just giving you the psychological aspect of it. . .by all means see a physician if you think there's something physiological.
Keep jumping in the saddle. Good luck.