Different people are going to define things in a differnt light. His best friend has been with him through many girl friends. He might look at it through those eyes. It something goes south his friend will still be their and he doesn't want to lose that relationship for anything because it is his safety net.
IMHO I think it isn't right for him living with you and not feel a strong enough bond to thing of you as family or worse yet be so tacky that he would tell you such.
It is equally important to point out that though you might not like his friends for whatever reason that you should not try to control who his friends are or if he can see them. A better guage would be if he spends quality time with you. If he spends all his time with his friends or you have to share all the quality time with his friends there that is wrong. But there is nothing wrong if there is time for the two of you, group things and just him and his friends.
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At least you are communicating with him. Hopefully this will help. I do feel like I am missing something here though.
My advice is to step back and look at it from his perspective. If he loses his friends then loses you where is he? He has to rebuild everything in his life.
I look at family as no matter what they will always be there. If you broke up with him would you still be there to talk to him when times are tough. Would you have a common cause to rally too?
In the end you have to choose what is best for you. I still wish there was more perspective here to go on.
draconis