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Justice44 · 04-05-2010, 02:24 PM

Hopefully my following comment will explain why I do not think sexual fidelity should be intrinsically important to all marriages. Here it is:

I do not understand why sexual fidelity is necessary in marriages if the marriage is happy without sexual fidelity. If you were an in a 10 plus year open marriage and your level of happiness was equal to the level of happiness in a “closed” marriage, why should you be concerned about being monogamous or simply being abstinent outside of marriage? According to them, simply respecting the rule of sexual abstinence because it is simply a rule makes no sense.

Many critics claim that monogamy offers the greatest promise of soul mates staying together. However, it does not give the greatest promise of preventing heartache. One could fall in love with someone outside of marriage or fall out of love in the marriage and obtain a divorce. Neither of things requires sex and both of these things are as devastating as the risk in open marriage.

Note: I have heard many reports that swingers have a lower divorce rate than monogamous marriage. Actually, I thought that the swingers had a higher divorce rate than monogamous marriage. I will keep researching this and perhaps show some studies in my replies.

04-05-2010, 02:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
Justice44 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 12	Open Marriages Are Not "Committed" Hopefully my following comment will explain why I do not think sexual fidelity should be intrinsically important to all marriages. Here it is: I do not understand why sexual fidelity is necessary in marriages if the marriage is happy without sexual fidelity. If you were an in a 10 plus year open marriage and your level of happiness was equal to the level of happiness in a “closed” marriage, why should you be concerned about being monogamous or simply being abstinent outside of marriage? According to them, simply respecting the rule of sexual abstinence because it is simply a rule makes no sense. Many critics claim that monogamy offers the greatest promise of soul mates staying together. However, it does not give the greatest promise of preventing heartache. One could fall in love with someone outside of marriage or fall out of love in the marriage and obtain a divorce. Neither of things requires sex and both of these things are as devastating as the risk in open marriage. Note: I have heard many reports that swingers have a lower divorce rate than monogamous marriage. Actually, I thought that the swingers had a higher divorce rate than monogamous marriage. I will keep researching this and perhaps show some studies in my replies.