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Originally Posted by draconis
I am assuming you were very emotional when you first posted.
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I still am quite emotional about this topic.
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It seems that the sticking point is if he considers you family.
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Correct.
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If he sees a futher with you than I can't see why he wouldn't consider you family. I think he needs to tell you where it is going. What constitutes the other 5%.
draconis
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He "sincerely hopes" for a future with me. Those are his words. But I thought we had more than that going on; I thought he was sure about me. He should be. He tells me that there is not another woman out there like me, that I'm the best girlfriend he has ever had, that he loves me more than he's loved past girlfriends, that I'm awesome, that I'm the only woman he could ever have children with because I'm sane and rational, etc. And after all that he still isn't sure? What does it take for this man?
Once he makes up his mind about the other 5% then he will know where its going. Up until the last few weeks it was headed in the direction of marriage and later, children.
He says that the last 5% is due to me being critical of him, and closed-minded in general. He says that when he has a new idea, I immediately beat it down. Basically he sees me as being unsupportive due to this. He is deciding whether he can, or cannot, handle this for the rest of his life. He is also waiting to see if I will make any future improvements in this area. And now that I am keenly aware of this flaw, I intend to...
Though I hesitate to improve myself for him or do anything for him while he has done this to me. To tell you the truth I don't feel like doing squat for him at this point. I don't think he deserves it anymore.