draconis

When everthing is said and done it is always your choice. I don't think you should shut him out. It might only re-enforce his problem. I think a fair way is to let it go on cruise control. You shouldn't have to do anthing special but you shouldn't withhold from him either.

I might also suggest having some serious talks with him. Lay out your cards and let him know that you were hurt not because he wasn't there yet but that you felt stunted by him not seeing his live in girlfriend, lover and friend as a major importance to him.

Let him know that in the same you have waited on him to as he hasn't stepped up. If you have been that great as a girlfriend why no ring? Ask him what you should have inferred about not being preposed to.

draconis