Originally Posted by Harvard
how do you handle your frustration with your spouse? I would appreciate some feed back on this.
I personally take it directly to him, I do not wait for the right time or the right words, I just put it out there, lay it on the table & be open/honest/even raw. Probably not the best advice for some -as timing & our frame of mind might need a little adjustment before we unload our frustrations on another.
Luckily, my husband well understands me and is pretty cool with my "direct" approach.
I am the type if I do not unload what is starting to eat at me when I feel something is "building", I risk becoming like a living volcano and the unleashing/eruption after I have allowed myself to fester is MUCH WORSE than just going to him when I first start to feel any kind of "unpleasant-ness" due to something he said, did, or some irritation that is affecting "us".
He, on the other hand, might fester a little before coming to me- he is not as direct, but I can always tell if something is bothering him and I make it my immediate goal to sit him down & we discuss.
Communication is simply vital & life saving.
The give & take of sharing how you are feeling -even the bad(without personal attack)-because of what he/she did or didn't do and truly listening from their perspective -as well.
Nothing better in life - except maybe sex .