 Re: sexually used?
I give in more often than not since its easier than trying to have the same conversation over and over again that I'm not happy and needing something other than the physical act. I know this isn't helping the situation, but I also know that if he doesn't get what he says he needs than a brick wall seems to go up between us that is almost unbreachable until one of us gives in. (which is usually me.)
He says that I'm being unreasonable when I put him off and that its all my fault that this has become an issue since it didn't use to be this way. That makes me feel so angry since I am definitely not the same girl he married over ten years ago. We've both changed and for the most part we've grown together, but not in this area. He still expects me to be the same as when we met, and that is just not going to happen.
Yes, I go out of my way to make sure that he knows I love him, verbally and by doing extra little things for him. Maybe he's just become accustomed to the extra little things and they don't mean to him what they mean to me. I don't know.
So, yes. Maybe it is a little routine, but how can it not be when you are both so busy and then add in four kids. I'm at a loss right now.
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