 Re: Seriously Don't know what to do
Well, its decided, tonight we are having "the big talk". Finally got him to agree to it even though he has promised this before. So we will see. Again he told me he doesn't trust me but how does trust with me spending money translate into the bedroom. Why, if there is an issue with him thinking I am going to spend money, does he not want to touch me or can't show me any intamicy at all. I just don't get it. If I was playing the field etc yes I would understand. But he has an issue with me spending money and I don't know how to fix that. Its not like I go out and spend everything on clothes or things for me, I spend it on food for the house, or animal food or cleaning products. Ok every now and then I might buy myself a new top or dress but its usually between $50-$100 nothing major and a lot of the time I will put it on layby.
As I'm typing this I'm thinking hubby sounds like a real control freak...hes not but I am starting to think maybe there is another underlying issue. He still refuses to go to councilling so I am going to try a new tack by saying that "I need it to try and understand how I am going to build his trust again, cause at the moment I don't know how to do this" we'll see if that works. Please keep the advice coming....just knowing someone is listening really helps.....
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