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pochael · 04-14-2010, 10:33 AM

I know many may disagree. But here it goes. First... As it sounds it is not your husband doing anything to bring up these trust issues. It is your own selfishness. I know, you disagree. However, that is what it is.

Now, how do you get around that. You will never get over anything until you forgive. But you have to get over selfishness in order to forgive. And that in itself is a process. Selfishness is something that was ingrained in everyone from birth...
It is amazing because it is a trait we hate in one another but justify it in ourselves. Now, he is as well selfish, but it takes one of you to fix both. Every sinful act can be traced back to selfishness. Even separated you were still married. So there is no excuse for what he did, and you cannot accept that.

Now, why do you have such low standards for yourself but such high expectations of him? Pretty shocking huh!

I was going to PM you about how to fix it, but messeging is turned off.

There is a great book that can help you better understand all of those things. It is called the Love Dare. You should get it.

04-14-2010, 10:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
pochael Banned Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: PA Posts: 94	Re: Does the trust ever come back? I know many may disagree. But here it goes. First... As it sounds it is not your husband doing anything to bring up these trust issues. It is your own selfishness. I know, you disagree. However, that is what it is. Now, how do you get around that. You will never get over anything until you forgive. But you have to get over selfishness in order to forgive. And that in itself is a process. Selfishness is something that was ingrained in everyone from birth... It is amazing because it is a trait we hate in one another but justify it in ourselves. Now, he is as well selfish, but it takes one of you to fix both. Every sinful act can be traced back to selfishness. Even separated you were still married. So there is no excuse for what he did, and you cannot accept that. Now, why do you have such low standards for yourself but such high expectations of him? Pretty shocking huh! I was going to PM you about how to fix it, but messeging is turned off. There is a great book that can help you better understand all of those things. It is called the Love Dare. You should get it.