Yendor

My wife and I have been together since we were 18 (now 36) and we were married in 2001. We currently have a 5 month old son, who means the world to me. In March, my wife talked to me about going, with her parents, to visit her relatives in another part of the country, as I cannot go. We discussed how long I would be comfortable in letting my wife and son go for and we had agreed on 2 weeks. I also told her that I didn’t like the idea of her and my son going at all. After she had talked to he parents, I was informed that they were going for 4-5 weeks. Needless to say I got very angry as I felt that my feelings had been ignored yet again. She is currently visiting her parents and is gone for 1 week. In not so many words, I thought that I had gotten across that I was unhappy about her going, but apparently she didn’t get it.

Am I wrong in thinking that she shouldn’t be going without me? I believe that trips like this should be done as a family. I would never consider taking my son and leaving my wife at home and going somewhere without her, yet she doesn’t see it like I do. Asking me to give up my son again for 2 weeks, is like asking me to rip my heart out. Especially since my son is so young, this has been very hard on me. This last week without my wife and son has not been very enjoyable. From my point of view, she has always put her parents before me. I'm also afraid that I might be resentful towards my wife after all this. That's something that I don't want to happen.

My problem is also that I tend to keep things inside. To me, writing this post has been very difficult. It’s something I know I have to work on.