Yahoo!! just was able to use a toy as close to his size as I could find! Most amazing solo O of my life!!!!!!!
I have been using progressively bigger plugs and toys every other day and it worked! Surprisingly not painful. well just a little bit at first.
Sent him a pic of the toy then one with it in place! He called me 2 seconds after he got it! He will be home on Wednesday, our anniversary!!!!!