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PeasNCarrots · 04-22-2010, 12:14 PM

WoW! lol Where are guys like you when im looking???? I have a similar issue with my SO, except we havnt had sex in more than a year. He says he just has no sex drive anymore but after reading ALOT of posts here im begining to wonder if part of it is that we spend too much time together. He owns his own business and I run the office so alot of days we are together (or at least within a room or 2 of eachother) at least 22 hours out of 24.

I guess my best advice for you would be to find a hobby that you can do alone or share with your W. Find something that will take you away from her and thinking about her ALL THE TIME! A) it will distance you from her and give you time apart. B) it will give you something else to focus on while you are trying to entice her. It needs to be something you WANT to do on a regular basis,daily or every other day.Something that becomes a habit to do, like working out at the gym 3X a week. I say something you can share with her also because there may be times when you have your periods of being all into eachother and if its a habit you dont want to miss doing it. It has to be something that you can continue doing in those times when she isnt interested in being all lovey dovey...

I hope this makes sense! :smile: Good luck! Theres hope here.

04-22-2010, 12:14 PM	#10 (permalink)
PeasNCarrots Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: SE USA Posts: 175	Re: Am I trying too hard? Should I back off a little? WoW! lol Where are guys like you when im looking???? I have a similar issue with my SO, except we havnt had sex in more than a year. He says he just has no sex drive anymore but after reading ALOT of posts here im begining to wonder if part of it is that we spend too much time together. He owns his own business and I run the office so alot of days we are together (or at least within a room or 2 of eachother) at least 22 hours out of 24. I guess my best advice for you would be to find a hobby that you can do alone or share with your W. Find something that will take you away from her and thinking about her ALL THE TIME! A) it will distance you from her and give you time apart. B) it will give you something else to focus on while you are trying to entice her. It needs to be something you WANT to do on a regular basis,daily or every other day.Something that becomes a habit to do, like working out at the gym 3X a week. I say something you can share with her also because there may be times when you have your periods of being all into eachother and if its a habit you dont want to miss doing it. It has to be something that you can continue doing in those times when she isnt interested in being all lovey dovey... I hope this makes sense! :smile: Good luck! Theres hope here.