| | Re: What do I do
I was working this schedule when we meet 20 years ago. When I get off work every day I call home to see if anything is needed from town before I head home. I am home within 30 minutes of leaving work every day (25 mile drive) unless she needs something. When I get home she is not there most of the time. She only works two days per week (Thursday and Friday) at her own business. Yes I work a lot but I am home every night with her. My work day starts at 5:00 am and ends at around 4:30 to 5:00 pm so I am home at a decent hour to spend time with her and the kids. I go to bed around 11:00 pm.
I did go to working 5 days per week from November 09 to January 10 to try and help the situation. October 09 is when I noticed her relationship with OM getting out of hand. I took the kids to the lake house nearly every weekend during this time. She was invited to go every time. She loves to fish. She would come down on Saturdays and spend the day but refused to stay one night over the three months. She absolutely refused to stay with us. She always had other plans (visiting girl friends). As for as sex we were still having it 3 to 5 time per week because she and I do have a big drive in this area.
Ozarkguy--- I had several smoking guns.
1. The best was a test kit for sperm (Checkmate). The way I did this with as much as we have sex was I had to pull out every time we had sex. This was the hard part because for the test to be accurate and not be messed up by your stuff you must not do it inside her for at least 7 days. She likes games so I just made it a game of where she wanted it. I wound up over a two month period getting two positive tests from her Saturday night adventures. Now I will say this was hard to do and make sure you stick to the 7 day rule. I really did not need the test to know by looking at her underwear but I had to test it to confirm for my sake.
2. A very close MALE friend of hers for over 25 years confirmed dates and times she was with him. My wife had told him all the details of the affair and he admitted to knowing about it for several months. I had to get pretty ugly with the guy to get this information. I had done this guy a favor some years back and called him on it. Not the best way to get it but it worked. I confirmed his info with cell bill and key logger.
3. She was planning a hotel stay with him to a concert. Now this was out in the open and included my 13 year old daughter and one of my daughter’s friends. She told me she was only renting one hotel room for them all. I asked where the male friend was sleeping and she said she was getting a room with double beds and the girls were sleeping on the floor and her and male friend were using the two beds. She said it would be just like camping. When I checked the room reservation she had two rooms rented in her name. BTW she never got to make this trip because I confronted her with test and other info before she got to go.