| | Re: Advice of how to play in the backdoor?
DO NOT USE DESENSITIZING CREAM!
I can not stress that enough! You need to feel the pain so that you know if something is wrong.
I highly recommend ID Millennium lube. The key to this kind of play is taking it SLOW and using lots and lots of lube. I recommend getting a few toys specifically designed for this purpose and starting out with the smallest one and working your way up to something the size of your partner's penis.
You need to get really turned on like near the point of orgasm and then start playing with the smallest toy. I swear that you will have some of the most intense orgasms of your life! We don't do it often, but whew, it is nice to throw in once in a while!
Let me know if you need anymore info.