Originally Posted by danny
I am in a relationship that I can repair any time so long as as I am willing to make the first move towards reconcilliation no matter who is at fault and when we are getting along it's pretty great. I'm just tired of being the one who always has to take the blame.
Everyone has an area in their life that they are very weak with. My wife sounds somewhat like your wife. In any argument I have to be the peacemaker and I have to always make the first moves. If she had her way, she can and has gone for weeks until I reconcile first.
My wife has a bi-polar/schizophrenic/severe alcoholic mother. Her father handled the situation by working 100+ hour weeks. She ended up raising herself and her brother from a very young age in a very bad childhood.
It's something I knew going into the marriage that would be her Achilles heel so to speak. But, in the end all of her other awesome traits outweigh this one bad one. And, I'll be honest I sure as hell have my own bad traits as well!
I sure as hell know it gets REALLY old always being the peacemaker (Even when you are right)!! But, I think we always need to keep the big picture in mind. Is dealing with that irritant (that probably will never change) worth the smiles, kisses and hugs we get from a loving wife? In my case, I answer with a empathic YES!!!