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Originally Posted by Affaircare  First, Crypsys! I'm not worthy! That was beautiful and to the point. |
Thanks for the compliment! Although as my grandfather always told me "Son, never get a big head when someone gives you a compliment. Remember, even a stopped clock is right twice a day."
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Originally Posted by Affaircare Finally, it may be that you two have some personality type difference that explain the emotional thing too. For example, often in a couple the male person is the more logical, thinker type and the female is the more emotional, feeler type...but not always! There are feeler men and thinker women. |
The Mrs. and I started getting along so much better when I finally realized she wasn't wanting me to solve her problems, just listen. I used to get so frustrated because she was constantly texting me, calling me, asking me about problems she had. I would always do what I thought she wanted and try to help her fix them. I would then get frustrated because she would still talk to me about it day after day, etc. I would always think to myself "I NEVER come to her with all of these issues or problems, what's wrong with her that she lives in so much drama." I read (don't laugh) Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I was then able to realize she didn't have more problems then me, she just externalized them and talked to me about them as part of how she operated emotionally. She just wanted me to understand and listen.
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Originally Posted by Affaircare So you may want to take this Jung Myers-Briggs Personality Test and see if you are an F personality and she is a T. If so, that would be a portion of the reason why you have a softer, affectionate heart and she has the more logical, analytical heart. |
I agree, Meyers-Briggs are good ways to help both of you understand where each of you are coming from. My wife and I both took those tests and then read a book by David Keirsey called "Please Understand Me". (I am an ENFP, the Mrs. is a ISFJ)
