| | Re: Advice of how to play in the backdoor?
You don't have to do an enema, but if it makes you feel better than go ahead. I have never had need of one, but I only do anal when I know I am "clean". We have never used condoms for this kind of play. Have him take a leak after the deed and wash up well. Both of you should wash up afterward actually and lysol the bed just in case. Then again, I'm a bit OCD. lol.
Yes, it will get easier over time. The more relaxed you get with the whole situation, the easier it will be. I don't know if you're a drinker or not, but I would recommend just a glass or two of champagne or wine to get you relaxed the first time around. Don't get drunk, you need to be aware. Or have your husband give you good massage to chill you out.
I also recommend taking fiber for the next few days afterward so that if you did tear anything then it will heal better because your bowel movements won't reopen the wound. I don't recommend full on penetration with his penis until you're totally comfortable with the toy that is his size. I'd say use the his size toy a good handful of times at least before he tries to penetrate.