Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Mother In Law and Sister Invloved way too often

scarletblue · 05-07-2010, 08:38 AM

You, your wive, and your soon expected child will be a family unto yourselves. If she comes back and you decide to work it out, you need to find a way of life that works for both of you. Obviously, she was raised to handle situations differently than you.

I have to say that getting her family so involved in your disagreements sounds like behavior right out of elementary school. I don't agree with involving family in arguments. Long after things are resolved between you two, the resentment can linger in the rest of the family and really damage your relationship with them.

To me, your wife sounds really controlling. She throws fits when she doesn't get her way, and sicks her family on you. I'm assuming that she doesn't play badminton. Is there a hobby you could do together that she would be OK with? Not that she should have a problem with you playing badminton, for goodness sakes.

It's up to you if you want to work this out. I'd say stand up for yourself if you choose to. Otherwise, you might as well attach the puppet strings to yourself now.

If you decide not to work it out.... she left you, so you won't look like a bad guy. Just be there for your child.

05-07-2010, 08:38 AM	#5 (permalink)
scarletblue Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Washington State Posts: 455	Re: Mother In Law and Sister Invloved way too often You, your wive, and your soon expected child will be a family unto yourselves. If she comes back and you decide to work it out, you need to find a way of life that works for both of you. Obviously, she was raised to handle situations differently than you. I have to say that getting her family so involved in your disagreements sounds like behavior right out of elementary school. I don't agree with involving family in arguments. Long after things are resolved between you two, the resentment can linger in the rest of the family and really damage your relationship with them. To me, your wife sounds really controlling. She throws fits when she doesn't get her way, and sicks her family on you. I'm assuming that she doesn't play badminton. Is there a hobby you could do together that she would be OK with? Not that she should have a problem with you playing badminton, for goodness sakes. It's up to you if you want to work this out. I'd say stand up for yourself if you choose to. Otherwise, you might as well attach the puppet strings to yourself now. If you decide not to work it out.... she left you, so you won't look like a bad guy. Just be there for your child.