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Old 05-08-2010, 10:38 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I also want to add that I finally realized what it is that I am doing to make her feel like I am not a partner. I finally understand what she means when she says that there isn't any room in the relationship for both of our emotions.

I will do anything for my wife. She knows this, I know this. There are several things I have agreed to with her simply because I want to see her happy, etc.

However, whenever I become really emotional about something my emotions become priority. I do whatever it takes to get them acknowledged and if there is a problem, see to it that it's fixed. I do this at any cost. It doesn't matter if she doesn't want to talk. It doesn't matter if I promised not to do something. Nothing matters to me except my emotions in the moment.

I finally understand why she is so detached and why she describes me as wearing her out. Clearly I have what I think are emotional anxiety issues. I only hope I can get them taken care of before they do any more damage to our relationship.

Sorry if this thread has become less and less about sexuality which I know is purpose of this subforum. I originally started it because it was about my own sexual and affection needs and it's simply growing into so much more.
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