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lostinlove1 · 05-11-2010, 11:26 PM

After posting my story I have finally said enough, i told my husband he needed to leave last night, and that he was being cruel telling me he didn't love me and still hanging around. I told him he has changed so much and that it was selfish of him to have given up on us without discussing it with me to say the least. Well i said a lot more and even kept it together whilst saying it. The end result was he hugged me and told me maybe he was being a little harsh on his leaving. I left as i needed to go out but soon returned to him asking if i wanted to give it another shot, of course i said yes then started to say, unless he is willing to give it 100% is it not worth it he cut me off and said he will really give a go! He then came out to tell me he cant make any promises and doesn't want me to get me hopes up. I was gutted, i said you didnt' need to tell me that i know it is what it is and unless we both try we will never know. He then said look it may work and my not i just wanted to say that. I felt instantly all my hope gone, i thought he is just on some control power trip, i have came across as hopeless and insecure, that is so not what i wanted - I dont' want his pitty vote. Anyway i returned back to our bed and found that we had had quite intimate sex, then when i woke later in the evening to find him still awake tossing and turning (as he has issues with falling asleep) i said i will go sleep in the spare room so maybe you can get to sleep. See i meant nothing by it but i have told i snore and thought maybe i was making it hard for him to get to sleep. Morning rose and he said bye as he left for work, short blunt! I have later text him to say hey just wishing you a great day, to get no reply i then text him to say i was just wishing you a nice day and he replied and i quote "ok" gosh what am i doing here, what am i doing wrong, if you can give me any suggestions on how i should be acting i would appreciate it, i feel like the devil (my head) is on my shoulder telling me there is no hope but my angel (my heart) is telling not to give up just be loving and give him space. please ladies help me..........

05-11-2010, 11:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
lostinlove1 Registered User Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 15	Need some advice! After posting my story I have finally said enough, i told my husband he needed to leave last night, and that he was being cruel telling me he didn't love me and still hanging around. I told him he has changed so much and that it was selfish of him to have given up on us without discussing it with me to say the least. Well i said a lot more and even kept it together whilst saying it. The end result was he hugged me and told me maybe he was being a little harsh on his leaving. I left as i needed to go out but soon returned to him asking if i wanted to give it another shot, of course i said yes then started to say, unless he is willing to give it 100% is it not worth it he cut me off and said he will really give a go! He then came out to tell me he cant make any promises and doesn't want me to get me hopes up. I was gutted, i said you didnt' need to tell me that i know it is what it is and unless we both try we will never know. He then said look it may work and my not i just wanted to say that. I felt instantly all my hope gone, i thought he is just on some control power trip, i have came across as hopeless and insecure, that is so not what i wanted - I dont' want his pitty vote. Anyway i returned back to our bed and found that we had had quite intimate sex, then when i woke later in the evening to find him still awake tossing and turning (as he has issues with falling asleep) i said i will go sleep in the spare room so maybe you can get to sleep. See i meant nothing by it but i have told i snore and thought maybe i was making it hard for him to get to sleep. Morning rose and he said bye as he left for work, short blunt! I have later text him to say hey just wishing you a great day, to get no reply i then text him to say i was just wishing you a nice day and he replied and i quote "ok" gosh what am i doing here, what am i doing wrong, if you can give me any suggestions on how i should be acting i would appreciate it, i feel like the devil (my head) is on my shoulder telling me there is no hope but my angel (my heart) is telling not to give up just be loving and give him space. please ladies help me..........