Talk About Marriage - View Single Post

cookw06 · 05-13-2010, 07:59 PM

this is my first time doing this but i am really confused right now and i need whatever help i can get.

this past weekend my wife said to me she was feeling lost and things were going on with her and she was confused. we talked and argued and talked some more and basically all it came down to was she feels she's missing passion and excitement and romance. she said she doesnt know who she is and she needs to find herself. what is that supposed to mean? she said she still loves me but wishes it was like it used to be. we have been together 10 years and with the way that our work schedules are, its only natural that some of that daily passion faded away. i personally love her more than ever but now after she said all that, i cant help but be confused on what i should do. she said she will see a counselor but even so i dont know. i love her and cant picture life with out her but i also dont know if i cant live liek this also.

we havent had sex in 3 weeks and when we did have sex, it was the first time in 3 weeks than also. ive never been an overlly passionate guy and she knows that. i'm just like any normal man, i'm happy with sex at least twice a week. i asked her yesterday about sex (i know i probably shouldnt have but i was feeling things were in the 'ok' now) and she smiled and looked at me and said "sorry i dont feel like it tonight." typical i guess.

the last few days since we last spoke of the conversation have been ok, she would come up to me on the couch for a little while and snuggle in with me. tonight she was watching tv in the bedroom and i rolled over to her and asked if she would get closer and she said "how can i get closer?" i am truly hurt with this.

i do romantic things for her just not too often because we are on a budget and we cant afford much. but when we can i do my best. last week i splurged and brought her shopping to a 200a store plaza an area she loved that she has never been before. in march for our 10 year anniversary i went and bought her 10 little gifts. things that i knew she likes over the 10 years we been together.

i do not know what to do. i contemplated seperation, but i do not know if i want that either. someone please help. thank you.

05-13-2010, 07:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
cookw06 Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 32	Help! I am completely confused. this is my first time doing this but i am really confused right now and i need whatever help i can get. this past weekend my wife said to me she was feeling lost and things were going on with her and she was confused. we talked and argued and talked some more and basically all it came down to was she feels she's missing passion and excitement and romance. she said she doesnt know who she is and she needs to find herself. what is that supposed to mean? she said she still loves me but wishes it was like it used to be. we have been together 10 years and with the way that our work schedules are, its only natural that some of that daily passion faded away. i personally love her more than ever but now after she said all that, i cant help but be confused on what i should do. she said she will see a counselor but even so i dont know. i love her and cant picture life with out her but i also dont know if i cant live liek this also. we havent had sex in 3 weeks and when we did have sex, it was the first time in 3 weeks than also. ive never been an overlly passionate guy and she knows that. i'm just like any normal man, i'm happy with sex at least twice a week. i asked her yesterday about sex (i know i probably shouldnt have but i was feeling things were in the 'ok' now) and she smiled and looked at me and said "sorry i dont feel like it tonight." typical i guess. the last few days since we last spoke of the conversation have been ok, she would come up to me on the couch for a little while and snuggle in with me. tonight she was watching tv in the bedroom and i rolled over to her and asked if she would get closer and she said "how can i get closer?" i am truly hurt with this. i do romantic things for her just not too often because we are on a budget and we cant afford much. but when we can i do my best. last week i splurged and brought her shopping to a 200a store plaza an area she loved that she has never been before. in march for our 10 year anniversary i went and bought her 10 little gifts. things that i knew she likes over the 10 years we been together. i do not know what to do. i contemplated seperation, but i do not know if i want that either. someone please help. thank you.