Originally Posted by chowchewey
Why wouldn't a person (assuming they wanted to be married) try their hardest to make the other happy? I know I would but don't bacause it would be one sided.
I believe you answered your own question here. You can debate on who started it first, but the truth is you both harbor resentment towards one another. You for her not taking care of herself and her for you verbally attacking her. Unless one of you is willing to 'go first' to make your spouse happy without expecting anything in return (initially anyway) nothing will change. I see you both agree the marriage is over, but there is still hope if you're willing to make the first move.