| | Re: My husband's nagging
If he moved your stuff around wouldn’t you want him to put it back where he found it? That’s just one of the polite things we do when we live with another person. The issue with the bathroom’s cleanliness is yours. You chose to clean it, you moved his stuff therefore you should put it back. Not to mention it sounds like he feels it's disrespectful to move his stuff. You want him to respect your feelings but you don't want to respect his?
Still, he shouldn’t be disregarding your feelings the way he is. If you are feeling hurt by him he has no place to tell you that you don’t have a right to feel that way. MT’s article will definitely help as far as explaining your lack of drive to your husband. But yes, you can very much tell him that the way he approaches issues with you is building resentment to a point where you don’t want to have sex with him. It’s open, it’s honest and it’s a direct approach.
I’m guessing that with the prescription for Paxil comes regular checkups with the prescribing doctor? That office or a marriage counselor’s seems like the appropriate place to address these concerns. If he doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong he can’t very well convey the message to an individual counselor. Perhaps individual sessions with a joint marriage counselor that you both see would help.