Originally Posted by cherrypie18
Is this really true? I asked my h many times why he turns me down all he did was get mad at me saying I'm addicted to sex (you'd be "addicted" to sex too if you weren't getting any!) and that it's not the most important thing in a marriage (this while he looked at porn secretly and denied having done so even though it was in the history).
I asked if there's anything new he'd like to try he said no. I asked him to tell me if I'm not doing something his way and I would improve, he said there's nothing. He just couldn't bother and would rather wank off to porn and deny it. The only time he'd have sex with me was to conceive.
So could he secretly be addicted to porn?
I can only speak for myself cherrypie. But I would say I am fairly satisfied sexually in my marriage. There were times we went a bit too long, for various reasons. But we have always worked it out and got over the humps. If I had my way, I think probably daily would be great, but as it stands now we go about every 2-3 days.
With that I am sated and I have no real drive to watch porn at all. I can honestly say in the past 5 years I've probably only seen it less then I can count on one hand. I know I have a beautiful and willing wife at home, so why would porn do anything for me when I can have the real thing? My wife and I continuously try different things so sex is never boring. Sure i'd like her to initiate more, but no one and nothing is perfect. I do know though that unless she's hurting she never really turns me down. We are that way though because we work to make sure each of us is satisfied in the ways they need to be. For her it's me giving her a lot of physical touch (non-sexual) and giving her a lot of foreplay. I make sure she is satisfied every time we do have sex by whatever means I have to go to provide her that satisfaction. The biggest thing is neither of us is shy about letting the other know what we are wanting (sexually and not).
In my opinion people generally watch porn because they are missing some aspect of sex that they want and they are using porn to fill that gap.