Originally Posted by cherrypie18
and for the record even after catching the porn I did not withhold sexually, even after being turned down for months I still initiated it every once in a while in case he was ever up for it. He even turned down gettin oral lol what kind of man does that! First he stopped pleasing me or caring if he did or not, and then he wouldn't let me do it to him... it's a little confusing to me.
A few things come to mind. Have you had him tested for low testosterone? Also, not to sound like a butthead, but have you changed a lot physically? Gained a lot of weight, lost a lot of weight, etc? Some men find a specific type of body type really sexy and others not so much.
Also, I would suggest installing a keylogger. Not to see IF he sees porn, but to see what KIND of porn he's looking at. Is he looking at a specific type of fetish porn (or certain types of ladies)? Maybe that might give you some insight as to what he's looking for.
Cherry, just one thing to keep in mind, if it's not a testosterone problem your husband is totally in the wrong here. If he has no physical reason to not want sex then that means he's not telling you something. If he's not willing to tell it's up to you to dig it out.