Blanca

I suffer from depression, too. I can be an extremely listless, unresponsive, homebody. and to make it worse i know how its effecting my H. so its kind of a double whammy. my H has struggled with my depression and was always trying to make me happy. sweet, i know, but i didnt like that so much. so from the perspective of someone that is depressed, i would say dont try and make him happy. i know that sounds so weird to other people but really the most solace i have ever found was just having someone around that accepts me for who i am and doesn't try and change me. Someone who doesnt always make me feel like there is something wrong with me.

but equally as important was knowing my H wasnt becoming warped into my problem. i hated that he lost his hobbies to try and stay around me, to try and make me happy. that only makes it worse for me. i would say to go out and do things that make you happy, but of course spend quality time with your hubby doing the things he actually wants to do-like stay home playing video games.

also something that is equally important to know, but that your H wont tell you, is the little things do help even if he doesnt show it.