sisters359

Get counseling, because you are a "walk away wife" in the making. Doesn't matter "who started it," b/c you are miserable and sounds like he is, too. don't let $$ stand in the way of getting help; a divorce is more expensive! You might be able to fix this, or not--the mother's day stuff is probably indicative of his passive-aggressive nature (mad at you for whatever, so he refuses to do the normal things a loving spouse does). I lived like that for 20 years--despite numerous attempts on my part to change things (and that includes changing my behavior and trying to change my expectations), he would not budge--no gifts, always a half-assed excuse instead, blah, blah, blah. I let it go too long and became so disconnected that although we were married 20 years, I have never once missed him since separating a year ago--no regrets whatsoever. That's sad. Don't let that happen to you! Confront the issues now and decide later if the counseling has led to a happy marriage or not.