| | Sexless, feeling unconnected
My wife & I have sex much less than I would like. We only have sex 2-4 times a month. She treats it like a chore.
I have tried everything, from doing everything around the house (to reduce stress), to romantic date nights, to relaxing days @ the spa, to trips, flowers, couples counseling, and even simply ignoring it for extended periods of time (to hopefully eliminate the "elephant in the room"). She gave me a "coupon book" to "spice things up," and has yet to let me even use one. She is always too tired, regardless of whether or not she slept last night, all day, not at all, or too much.
I am beginning to feel disconnected. I am frustrated. I have tried sharing this with her, but she gets angry. She didn't want to go to couples counseling anymore.
I am at a loss, and am almost blown away by how this makes me feel towards my relationship, and ultimately her...
I don't want to be in a sexless marriage, and feel almost like I should cut my losses... If she isn't willing to work on it (or even HEAR me), what chance do we have?