Of course she will be angry - post divorce she will have to work.
The OP seems like a good guy whose only crime has been being way too nice and way too patient. If she keeps house the same way post divorce he will be able to get custody of the kids. The system favors mothers getting custody, but it does not tolerate "do nothing" parents who are disgustingly lazy/dirty.
Maybe the divorce will wake her up.
Originally Posted by Susan2010
I agree it doesn't sound like you love your wife. You say the child is the only reason you married her, and now you want to divorce because she is lazy.
She blows up at you because she feels like you are not the boss of her while you are bossing her around. Understand what you are doing. You are disrespecting her because you don't have any respect for her and she feels it. You actually get her angry to make her do as you want. If that's not bad enough, getting her angry is done in ways that are disrespectful. You would have to yell at her, insult her, and goodness knows what else you say and do. And to think you do it all deliberately.
Can you imagine just so very loved and respected she must feel? I wouldn't want to be her on her best day. She has every reason to be angry with you.
I understand how you feel to some extent. You are motivated while she is not. You have done much to provide a good life for your family, but she has not progressed along. I am saying though that your methods of dealing with the situation is less than ideal, antagonistic, disrespectful, and can only garner negative responses from her. Because you don't love her and because you feel you deserve better than her, you treat her like crap and then expect her to WANT to do as you say.
Well, you have the divorce all worked out in your head, so good luck to you. I guess I should point out you're likely mistaken that she will give you custody if that is what you meant. Divorcing her will add to the resentment you already built up in her, and she will fight you like a mama bear because she will not want to lose her children and because she will hate you for doing this to her. You have imagined a smooth transition and method for getting rid of your wife, but she won't go so easily. You have already made sure of that. Not to mention she will be extremely hurt. She is as clueless to solving the problems of your marriage as you are but won't feel she deserves being dumped like this.