Re: Oh God I don't even know where to begin..
I dont think you are wrong for wanting to leave him. If he's doing all of this just to keep you, then he's doing it for the wrong reasons anyway and will lapse. I agree with Susan. I think you should get away.
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie