I am with cody and SA, I would have never got married if this was the outcome. I am still riddled with pain at some of the words my wife said to me. Do we really have to "stand on our head?" to make this all work? (rhetorical question,

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I am on my first book about love languages, and will get into His Needs, Her Needs next.
I am hanging on by a thread and that is about it in my marriage.