| | Re: Wife having an emotional affair. How to handle it?
I know for sure I've been able to get her to quit spending time online and instead spend it with me or at least around me. Previously, she had been wrapped up in her own world and had stopped doing anything around the house. While I like to do my fair share of housework, it really became difficult to keep up when she stopped helping and my emotions were running dry at the same time.
In the past few days, she's started doing housework again. She's been going to bed and staying there. One night before she knew that I had knowledge of what was going on, she got up at 4AM to take a fake shower (turned the water on but never got in) and took her phone into the bathroom with her. I assume she was texting him. That type of behavior has stopped.
At this point, in the last few days, the only thing that has really jumped out is the 3 hour phone conversation she had with him on Wednesday (it is now Friday). I keep waiting on her to bring it up, but she hasn't. I'll be watching to see if it happens again, at which point I will ask her if she's talked to him, and when she says no, I'll just hand her the phone logs and tell her that when she's ready to talk, I'll be (insert whatever I'm going to go do here).
On one hand, I feel bad that I continue to monitor her so closely, but on the other hand, I feel as if I must absolutely do this to make sure that she knows that if she wants to continue to contact Jim, she does so with full knowledge that I will know exactly what is going on.
I haven't contacted Jim yet, I've been waiting to see if she will take care of that on her own. I'm not convinced it will happen, but I will at least give her that chance.