| | keeping the spark
When 2 people first get together, there is such a spark between them. Not much is needed to have a furfilling sexual relationship. I totally understand that the newness is exiting. Getting to know eachother physically etc.
But why does that spark fade with time? After years of being with one person it takes work and effort to keep things exiting?
Do you look at your spouse as "the same old, same old"?
How can you keep the spark alive without having to cross an unwanted boundary?
I guess what I'm asking, how do you keep the spark and keep things new after you are already doing all you are willing to do and don't want to venture out into kink land any further?
And this is for the long haul too. For people who want to be together for the rest of their lives. Which will take them into 30+ years. Not for those who will only be together for a few years and then divorce because they want to trade in their old spouse for a new and more exiting one. That's too easy. And sad in this day and age.