Originally Posted by land2634
I also, somehow, need to get her to understand that she has to communicate with me when she feels something is lacking.
I just want to point out that this, while you may not mean it, sounds a bit like control.
You can't GET her to do anything. You can offer your perspective. You can tell her what YOU wish for. But you have to be able to step back and let her make her own choices. The questionnaires are used to get YOU to change YOURSELF so that you are the most attractive option for her.