Originally Posted by Deejo

As a male, if you are willing to frame your partner denying you sex as abusive - I think your entire frame of reference is out of whack.

Denial of sex led to my becoming short-tempered, resentful, angry and distant. All of these things after I had tried being thoughtful, considerate, loving, compassionate, and understanding, for years. My spouse used Susan's argument too: "How am I supposed to want to have sex with someone that doesn't make me feel good?"

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I have come to realize, that this is the simple truth. How you contribute to your partner feeling about herself correlates to whether or not you get willingly and happily laid without having to beg or pout.