QUOTE=MEM11363;159241]Your spouse is not a prostitute and you are not a john. amen to that bro/MEM. ! many a woman gets their dander up
on this pt alone. they say/write rants about this aspect of marriage(sometimes true, others not)and hide behind this phrase/idea to justify their own selfishness paradoxically.
None of this should be based on a single event or small set of events. My only point is that when your spouse drops you to the bottom of their priority queue and leaves you there open ended despite your protests, THEY have stopped showing you any kind of love, much less unconditional love. (here-here! and thus set up the possible makings for an EA/PA. another never ending
vicious cycle for humanity/TAM'ers to deal with!)
It is fine to be patient for a while - in fact it is wrong NOT to be patient with your partner. But there is a fine line between being patient and being a doormat.[/QUOTE] agreed. but in time methinks that fine line becomes quite broad, quite clear, and w/ the veil lifted, quite messy. I've read many good posts here on this thread. to OP i'll direct my entry, so as to not antagonize anyone unnecessarily.
this is the crux of what i have to say.
we all bring our own experiences/perspectives to this forum.
we have our own baggage as it were, of being M/F, rich/poor,
EA/PA victims or "victimers" per se, the list goes on etc.
we should become aware that if our vantage pt differs w/ anothers then perhaps the way we see the world/problem truly isnt the be all/end all to the matter. i.e., no "man" is an island
i've read/learned some interesting things here on this thread
alone, and wish to thank u all for said learning experience.
i've added some good contrasting pts to my somewhat typical male oriented pt of view. maybe theres more to come?
i hope so!