jar

So it is 4am and I am exhausted. I can’t sleep I keep replaying the past few days in my head. So I figured I would post yesterday’s texting drama that started first thing in the morning and went most of the day.

The subject is our dog Annabelle who we both love to death. My wife misses her deeply. I agreed to joint custody and that I would drop her off at daycare and the wife would pick her up on Monday. Yeah that’s right we bring our dog to daycare once a week so she can be social and play with her friends while we are at work. The only problem is day care is closed on Monday for the long weekend and it is about 40 min out of my way…During mediation I also detected that the wife has some sort of big plans for the weekend…I think with OM..

Wife-day care is not open on Monday...Are you going to drop her off on Tuesday or Monday at our house

Me-I cant take her to the house...Tuesday is not convenient because it is out of my way…I can drop her off at daycare on Saturday but I was looking forward to spending this weekend with her.

Wife-Well daycare is in agreement and you picking her up there in a 3 weeks will not be any less convenient…So Tuesday or meet me somewhere on Monday

Me- So Tuesday does not work for me…I am not willing to meet with you face to face at this point…So if you can find a neutral place for me to drop her off on Monday I am willing to do this. Or I can drop her off on Saturday and sacrifice spending the weekend with her….The pickup would be convenient because I would plan to pick her up after my weekly doctor’s appointment which is right near daycare.

Wife-Tuesday was the agreed day and they are not doing daycare on Monday…Maybe you could drop her off at H’s house (wife’s friend who is also a co worker)

Me- Sorry I am not willing to in convince myself to accommodate your schedule…You want to split the custody of the dog I am fine with that…When we left mediation I was under the impression that you call an figure out a mutual time…I was unaware I made an agreement fro Tuesday…I would prefer a neutral drop off and pick up…I don’t feel H’s is neutral….I am willing to drop her off there but be a where I plan to speak with her about the details of our marriage and your affair so if you are cool with that I am cool.

Wife-I am not asking H and she knows about the affair. and I am not accommodating your schedule as well this in not one sided accommodation…Pick a time Monday and we can meet in a parking lot and you can put her in my car. I will be in a store waiting for you saying you are here…

Me- That is fine I have offered two different dates that don’t work for either one of us…so next date that I have available is a week from Saturday…I will be passing by on my way to my family’s…also I am not ok with the parking lot option…

Wife- Well you’re not comfortable with anything so I am not the one being difficult here…

Me- sorry you feel I am being difficult…I need my space form you right now…again I can do sat or Monday if you can figure something out or a week from sat...

Wife- I will get back to you in a few

Wife- They are open on sat…I will pick her up at 11am

Me- Ok I will have her dropped off by then…

Wife-I need her xyz

Me- Ok…also don’t forget she is scared of fireworks

Wife- I know my own dog…

So kind of interesting….My wife broke all of her weekend plans and chose to be with our dog…OM apartment does not allow dogs…Wife also promised in mediation that OM would not step foot on our property or ever be around our dog….So interesting turn of events…I think I had her stressed out pretty good over this one…

Also got a really nice email from the mediator thanking me for the flowers

JAR