Originally Posted by turnera
By all means, DO get as much rest as you need.
Have you tried talking to him since that last episode, to let him know that you WILL be divorcing him, and you hope he can come to accept it? Do it in a safe place, in front of other people. This may - may - help him come to grips with what is about to happen.
You may consider asking him to go to a mediator or counselor with you, one that you pick, who will help you talk to him to accept the divorce.
lvs, I'm not trying to be rude, but what exactly did you think was going to happen when he got served? Did you think he would just go "Oh, ok, I guess that's it, let me pack my bags"? I thought you had been preparing a place to go all this time.
No turnera i din't talk to him he knows i am planning to divorce him but not that i filed and once he knows i did he won't admit going to any counselor and there no one that we both know can serve as mediator
turnera when i get back the divorce papers i need to find any person over 18 to serve him but also i can keep the papers with me the needed time to be ready to serve them in a safe way.