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psychman · 07-04-2010, 01:50 PM

I am planning on leaving my wife in the next few days. I have tried to talk with her but it is impossible because all the problems are mine, her temper flares immediately, plus she continues to deny an ongoing affair of which I have a proof, but she says is just misinterpretation of a male friendship. (actually I have proof of multiple secret emotional affairs but don't have direct proof of physical affairs).

My surprise moving out will be an extreme surprise to my kids (and her because she thinks I will continue to put up with the situation, as I have in the past). The kids are aware of the rising tension between us over the past few years but we have never argued in front of them and they have no idea what their mother has been doing at work, over the years.

I have a 22 year old, a 19 year old, and a 16 year old. All are doing well in school and in their relationships. In that regard I feel vindicated for working to stay in the marriage. The kids aren't aware of the depth of our problems (yes they are aware of the tension).

What do I say to them on the day I move out? I don't want them to fall apart and I want to maintain a close relationship with my son (in fact I will only be moving a mile away).

07-04-2010, 01:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
psychman Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: colorado Posts: 9	How to tell the kids? I am planning on leaving my wife in the next few days. I have tried to talk with her but it is impossible because all the problems are mine, her temper flares immediately, plus she continues to deny an ongoing affair of which I have a proof, but she says is just misinterpretation of a male friendship. (actually I have proof of multiple secret emotional affairs but don't have direct proof of physical affairs). My surprise moving out will be an extreme surprise to my kids (and her because she thinks I will continue to put up with the situation, as I have in the past). The kids are aware of the rising tension between us over the past few years but we have never argued in front of them and they have no idea what their mother has been doing at work, over the years. I have a 22 year old, a 19 year old, and a 16 year old. All are doing well in school and in their relationships. In that regard I feel vindicated for working to stay in the marriage. The kids aren't aware of the depth of our problems (yes they are aware of the tension). What do I say to them on the day I move out? I don't want them to fall apart and I want to maintain a close relationship with my son (in fact I will only be moving a mile away).