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is it me? · 10-25-2007, 11:23 AM

My wife and I had the worst argument in our 6 year marriage this past week. We have in the recent past month or so mentioned the "D" word, but it was mostly in the heat of the moment, but everytime we cried and told eachother that we wanted this marriage to work and expect to be together no matter what, and we can always work things out.

This last argument though actually involved talking about custody of our child, her business (either selling or giving me half of the assets in cash) which I funded from day one and work for free doing odd jobs, fixing floors, changing light bulbs, mr. fixit basically. We also discussed our house and what would be done. I even picked up an apt. finders magazine. So it was pretty serious stuff.

We later calmed down, but there is still that akwardness. I have expressed to her that I want to keep trying, no matter what. I asked her if she is giving up or wants to continue trying and she says she is confused and doesnt know what she wants to do. My crazy wondering mind is thinking she is stalling and making plans on getting out and just leading me on, till she figures the best way out and how to get our child, screw me out of the business, etc. How many days should I give her to ask the question again if she willing to work at things or should she be the one and tell me since I have already asked?

Since the argument I have been trying so hard to be nice and respectful, not that I wasnt in the past, but I am tryin to show her that I dont want to let go. She is still stand-offish and been very short with me. I've cuddled with her in bed by putting my arm around her and she just lays there and gives me no affection back. So again my crazy mind says if this continues for the rest of the week then I am going to say F it and I will end things. Is this right or wrong?

10-25-2007, 11:23 AM	#1 (permalink)
is it me? Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 14	How long should I wait My wife and I had the worst argument in our 6 year marriage this past week. We have in the recent past month or so mentioned the "D" word, but it was mostly in the heat of the moment, but everytime we cried and told eachother that we wanted this marriage to work and expect to be together no matter what, and we can always work things out. This last argument though actually involved talking about custody of our child, her business (either selling or giving me half of the assets in cash) which I funded from day one and work for free doing odd jobs, fixing floors, changing light bulbs, mr. fixit basically. We also discussed our house and what would be done. I even picked up an apt. finders magazine. So it was pretty serious stuff. We later calmed down, but there is still that akwardness. I have expressed to her that I want to keep trying, no matter what. I asked her if she is giving up or wants to continue trying and she says she is confused and doesnt know what she wants to do. My crazy wondering mind is thinking she is stalling and making plans on getting out and just leading me on, till she figures the best way out and how to get our child, screw me out of the business, etc. How many days should I give her to ask the question again if she willing to work at things or should she be the one and tell me since I have already asked? Since the argument I have been trying so hard to be nice and respectful, not that I wasnt in the past, but I am tryin to show her that I dont want to let go. She is still stand-offish and been very short with me. I've cuddled with her in bed by putting my arm around her and she just lays there and gives me no affection back. So again my crazy mind says if this continues for the rest of the week then I am going to say F it and I will end things. Is this right or wrong?