raaam

My wife and i are in our early 30's.we have 3 kids together. Their have been alot of problems during our relationship. I felt her family was always to involved in our relationship. We would have arguements ,her mom would show up ,then she would leave the house with our kids. This happened alot. She would drink, then get to a point where she would become violent. She would go to her parents. When at her parents they would drink and get into arguements ,become physical with eachother, then she would come back home. I always accepted her back. If she did something i didnt agree with she would say get over it. I did. 9 months into our marriage she didnt agree with me being on her about her drinking all the time. One day she didnt come home, stayed at her friends. Came home a day later saying she wanted to leave,so she packed up her things and our kids and went back to her parents. She filed for full custody and child support.i didnt agree with our kids being around the type of lifestyle her family lived so i stated it in court papers. Her father drank everyday, brother was into cocaine, mom would drink several times through the week, and my wife would join the drinking. Other than that ,they were ok people. I just couldnt picture our kids seeing this everyday. So 3 months later wife and her family were in vegas and she calls me to pick her up,drinking got her in trouble again. So i went again. Life goes on and year and half later she decides to leave again,. Packs up and takes our kids back to her parents because she cant get over the fact i brought her families dealings into court papers. So once again her and her family get drunk again, and her mother and brother attack her . Then she comes back home again. Time goes on, one night we go bowling, with friends and our kids. We were both drinking. Night goes on we go home and shes upset because she felt i paid to much attention to a friend i knew from high school. Which was a girl. I go to bed ,our kids came in bed with me,wife screaming and hollering at 2 in the morning,then becomes violent, jumps on me and our kids hitting and scratching me while in bed . This time i called police. Pressed charges got restraining order,got custody of our kids. She had to have supervised visitation. This went on for 3 months. Throughout our relationship i always loved my wife and would stay by her side through the good and bad times. I always felt she was the greatest when she didnt have outside influences and alcohol. So as you know 2 years later we reconcile again. Her father has since died due to alcoholism. Her family hates me for putting her in jail. They always let her know how she chose me over them. But this is our family. Our 3 kids and us. So know she wants to leave again because she feels she cant forgive me for pressing charges and getting custody. I know it sounds crazy but i cant give up on us. So im wondering if you guys think counseling could help us get through all these problems we have had.