Re: Red flags in Marriage - time to end?
Right now is the time to play dumb with her. Stfu. Do some investigation, get your ducks in a row. Never confront until you either have solid proof or you are ready to walk away anyhow. Cheaters always always play the same game. They deny and they gaslight until you prove to them you know for sure and have the solid proof. Then they only admit to what they think you already know. Always, every time. If you confront without hard evidence she will lie, deny, gaslight, and probably throw counter accusations back at you.
The more she realizes that you are suspicious, the more careful she will be. And that makes it harder for you to discover the truth. So for now you stfu and investigate. It only takes a few days up to maybe a couple of weeks to get the data you need.