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blueyes · 07-20-2010, 03:08 PM

My hb and I had a talk the other night, he really told me his feelings which is good because he doesn't usually talk. He said he thinks about the EA everyday and if I talk or see TOM we r done and he will put the house up for sale. He also said he has thought about ending his life a few times over this ordeal as well and I could tell that from time to time. My hb also is acting very insecure, I guess that is normal, he gets mad or silent treatment if I even talk to another man, young or old and I am in retail so I talk and see people all day long. So this is wearing real thin with me because he works with me on sundays and we end up arguing about different things. yes he changed his shift so we always work sundays together and he also meets me everyday for lunch just so he can keep an eye on me. He is smuthering me abit and I don't know how o make him feel any better. He wants me to tell him I'm staying and I can't tell him anything right now We r working on things together, going to councelling, sleeping in the same bed, having the greatest sex life we've ever had really, but he says he can't get past things and doesn't know how to get things out of his head. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to help him and it kind od is getting me angry now because everything is good then he brings it up every couple of weeks and we get into it. I feel like I might as well of slept with tom at least then he would have a good reason to be so pissed. We r spending lots of time together but when he acts like this now he is driving a wedge through us again like before and I told him I'm not going to take this anymore, I can't. It's driving me mad.help me please any advice.

07-20-2010, 03:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
blueyes Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 77	Feeling very guilty and don't know what to do next My hb and I had a talk the other night, he really told me his feelings which is good because he doesn't usually talk. He said he thinks about the EA everyday and if I talk or see TOM we r done and he will put the house up for sale. He also said he has thought about ending his life a few times over this ordeal as well and I could tell that from time to time. My hb also is acting very insecure, I guess that is normal, he gets mad or silent treatment if I even talk to another man, young or old and I am in retail so I talk and see people all day long. So this is wearing real thin with me because he works with me on sundays and we end up arguing about different things. yes he changed his shift so we always work sundays together and he also meets me everyday for lunch just so he can keep an eye on me. He is smuthering me abit and I don't know how o make him feel any better. He wants me to tell him I'm staying and I can't tell him anything right now We r working on things together, going to councelling, sleeping in the same bed, having the greatest sex life we've ever had really, but he says he can't get past things and doesn't know how to get things out of his head. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to help him and it kind od is getting me angry now because everything is good then he brings it up every couple of weeks and we get into it. I feel like I might as well of slept with tom at least then he would have a good reason to be so pissed. We r spending lots of time together but when he acts like this now he is driving a wedge through us again like before and I told him I'm not going to take this anymore, I can't. It's driving me mad.help me please any advice.