holdingtwenty

To 827aug:

My wife does have a close friend in FL. She visited her several times as I stayed alone in FL. I did do things like go fishing, went to street fairs, etc. It just was not the same without her or alone. I was so lonely and hurt. She did not call me much telling me she was busy helping her friend. I am sure she was faithful. My wife has a few close friends but does not get along with her family, therefore she is extremely close to her few friends. She has had so many failed friendships and family relationships in the past. I just did not want to make my post so long that no one would read it. I talk to my father a lot and he says the same thing you do. She needs counseling. She would never do this. I am not a therapist but I believe she feels totally healthy and she wants what she wants and that is it. We have been going through this for 8 months now.

She brought up separating to me when she had a major fight with her mother. I guess she was so angry that she wanted to get away from everyone, including me. Last week we had a big fight and this time I brought up separating and signing papers with the court. That stunned her completely. Once again I cried and got upset and she got angry. We left it that we would look into this and that has been it so far. Right now I am in my house while she in in our rental. I don't know what to do now. I want to thank you for reading and responding. I read this board when I feel lonely and hurt and it helps. I will probably seek counseling on my own. Again, Thanks.